Let me share my experience as someone who loves meeting people and building friendships.
It’s common to have friends who complain that you haven’t checked on them, even though they haven’t reached out to you either.
The reality is, life can be overwhelming for everyone, and people often get caught up in their own challenges. Everyone has something they are dealing with, which might not always be obvious.
However, this doesn’t mean you should forget the friends you started well with. Friendships require effort, but they don’t have to be overwhelming.
Tips for Maintaining Healthy Friendships
Set Values in Your Friendships
A meaningful friendship should have a foundation of shared values. Take the time to define what you both expect from the relationship—whether it’s mutual support, understanding, or simply being there when it truly matters.
It’s Okay to Check in Occasionally
I have friends I rarely check on, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t close. Whenever we reconnect, we use the opportunity to discuss life, family, and our goals. It’s not about frequency—it’s about the quality of the connection.
Don’t Stress About Daily Conversations
Ask yourself, What do I need to talk about every day? Even couples don’t call each other every single day. Focus on meaningful interactions rather than unnecessary daily chats.
Understand the Nature of Friendships
As you go through life, the many friends you make will gradually filter out. Only those who genuinely matter will stay, while others might fade into distant memories. This is a natural process and shouldn’t be a source of worry.
Family Comes First
Above all, prioritize your family. They are your most reliable support system and should never be neglected, no matter how many friends you have.
Final Thoughts
Friendship isn’t about who checks in first or most often—it’s about the depth of the relationship and the value you both bring to it.
When a friend says, “You didn’t even check on me,” take it as an opportunity to reconnect. But remember, true friendships aren’t built on constant contact; they’re built on respect, understanding, and meaningful moments.
Check in with your friends when you can, value those who truly matter, and always nurture your family relationships.